David Bohm
People think an attack on their ideas is an attack on them. It feels violent. You can hold an abhorrent idea without judging it for a while.
David Bohm writes this about the act of listening. When we come together to talk, or otherwise to act in common, can each one of us be aware of the subtle fear and pleasure sensations that “block” his ability to listen freely? Without this awareness, the injunction to listen to the whole of what is said will have little meaning. But if each one of us can give full attention to what is actually “blocking” communication while he is also attending properly to the content of what is communicated, then we may be able to create something new between us, something of very great significance for bringing to an end the at present insoluble problems of the individual and of society. On Dialogue, by David Bohm, page 5 link [1]